When I quit my job at the end of my pregnancy, I thought I was pressing “pause” on my career, not “delete.” Dont, get me wrong. I thoroughly enjoyed being a mother. But most of my world revolved around the kitchen and my household chores giving me no space to expand my intellect or take risky decisions. And with time, I began to shrink.

I noticed it first in conversations. I stayed quiet even when I had ideas. I hesitated to dress up because I felt I wasn’t “that woman” anymore. And when people asked, “So what do you do now?” — I didn’t have an answer I was proud of.

Confidence, I realized, doesn’t disappear with one big blow. It erodes silently, in the little moments when you stop showing up for yourself.

The change for me didn’t happen overnight. It started with the smallest decision: to stop waiting for someone else to validate me.

I remember the day my mom said, “Why don’t you just try doing something from home? You’ve done harder things before.” Those words hit me differently. They reminded me that I wasn’t starting from scratch — I was starting from experience.

That’s when I joined my first business meeting as a network marketer. I was nervous, unsure of myself. But with every session, every call, every training , I remembered who I used to be. And slowly, I stitched back pieces of my confidence.

It wasn’t about being perfect. It was about proving to myself, again and again, that I could do it. It was punching the self-doubt in the face and molding myself into a more confident me.

Here’s what helped me rebuild my confidence after motherhood — and what you can try too:

1.Start small, but start. Confidence grows from action, not before it. Even a 10-minute habit done consistently can change how you feel about yourself.

2.Celebrate your wins. Don’t wait for big milestones. Clap for yourself when you finish a task, speak up in a meeting, or even just dress up for the day.

3.Surround yourself with believers. I leaned on my mom, my mentor, and other women who lifted me up when I couldn’t. Find your circle, even if it’s just one person.

4.Reclaim your identity. Find your skills, passions, and strengths again and blend them into your new personality.

W>Today I can stand on stage, lead webinars, and guide other women. I share my story to inspire other mothers who are still searching to reclaim themselves. To them and to you I must say

Confidence is not something you either have or don’t. It’s a muscle you rebuild, rep after rep, day after day.

So if you’re a mom reading this, feeling like you’ve lost a part of yourself, let me tell you this: She’s still in there. She’s just waiting for you to show up.

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